This is a personal blog post was written for the artists at Stella's Art Gallery in Mentor, Ohio. Any views or opinions represented in this blog are personal and belong solely to the blog owner and do not represent those of people, institutions or organizations that the owner may or may not be associated with in professional or personal capacity, unless explicitly stated. Any views or options are not intended to malign any religion, ethnic group, club or organization, company or individual.
Do you have your own website now? Who’s it with? Who set it up? Is it performing the way you want it to?
You’re an artist here at Stella’s Art Gallery, selling your artwork, teaching classes – right? Then you’re a professional artist and you’re a small business owner. In today’s internet driven world, a small business needs a website to survive and grow. Did you know that’s how Stella’s Art Gallery started? Yep, with a website and now look what that small business has become. Do you want to start Living an Art Life independent, on your own terms with your own website? I’m glad you’re here!
Similar to your living situation, you can either own or rent your website. When you own your website, you have complete control over it but you have to know how to create the files and what to do with them. This is what most of us shy away from because we’d probably need a professional’s help. There are companies that use drag-n-drop technology to help you easily create your site and they’ll support you when you need help. The biggest downfall to renting is if you leave that company you lose the files that make up your site causing you to start new with the next company. There are many companies that do this like Wix, Weebly, and many more. They’re all similar. Today, I’m going to demo creating a website on Weebly. Although there is a Q&A at the end, if something I say isn’t clear, please ask at that time because other probably have the same question.
If you’re new to websites, there’s a bit of vocabulary involved. Here’s a start:
Domain – what you type in to get to your website, the URL, you can purchase for 1, 2, 5 or 10 yrs
Hosting – company who stores the files that make up your website are kept
Pages – each page on your website is considered one page, some packages limit how many you can have
Storage – the files that make up your website are stored for you and take up space on their computers. Some companies limit how much storage you can have for free, then they start charging you.
Header – the top of your website page
Footer – the bottom of your website page
Site Search –like a google search, but it searches your site only
SEO – Search Engine Optimization, you can search Google, Yahoo, etc. for information and websites
Form Builder – Some companies limit how many fields you can use in a form, like a contact form.
Reporting Statistics – traffic, sales, social interaction, etc.
Ecommerce – selling from your website.
Using any of the Website Builder sites to create your website will be more cost effective than hiring a developer and designer to build your site from scratch.
Look at other artist’s websites making note of what features you like so you have a shopping list ready to help you select which Website Builder to go with.
Some features to consider are: eCommerce, Email Marketing, Domain, Email address, Video and Webinars, Mobil app, support options, Maps, Slideshows, forms, blog, social media links, gallery page and Themes.
7 Reasons Why An Artist Should Have A Website
SEO - Search Engine Optimization
Back in 1999 I actually built websites professionally, like from HTML code! It was my creative outlet at the time...lol There were many companies like Google and they all have a different algorithm for their SEO. Lycos, WebCrawler, AltaVista, Excite, Yahoo, Dogpile, Bing, Ask Jeeves, How many of these do you remember? What are you using today? Google was just coming on the scene at that time and we were learning about their search engine. People were already saying that SEO was dead. Over. Done with. Today, SEO is bigger than ever. It didn’t die, it has changed over and over again. It’s all proprietary information, so we don’t know the exact recipe to succeed with any given search engine but we know enough to get a leg up on our competitors.
Another topic that has changed through the years. If you approach a blog like a one-way conversation where you post things that are interesting to you but has no value to others, it’s unlikely that you’ll interest anyone to read many more posts. Blog posts need to be useful and interesting. Think about what you have to offer people, how to make their lives better – what are they looking to your for? You’re blog is actually about your customers not you. You many say “I don’t have time to blog!” Trust me, I get that. Blogging is a lot of work, and sometimes that means you’re writing instead of painting. Coming up with interesting things to write is not easy sometimes. I try to write a blog post once a month. If I get ahead had have two ideas on one month, I schedule the 2nd one for the following month, so I’m ahead…lol I use ideas that come up in my classes, things people ask me about. Some of my blogs are “How-To”, some are informational, etc. Hopefully, they are of value to some of my customers.
It takes time to build up your email list, so start now and I do mean now. Compile a list of your customers – name, address, phone, and email. If someone takes a class gather their info. If someone buys your artwork, gather their info. Their purchase, albeit a class or artwork, is not a one-time purchase. They like you, they like your style and they would like more one day in the future, so stay in touch with them. You do need their permission though… You can’t turn Pro without an Email List. With a website, gathering their info is effortless. Drive them from the purchase of a class or artwork right to your website where they Opt-In and now they are part of your website family.
Do’s and Don’t’s
Keep your website fast, simple, easy and organized. Navigation and content must be clear, concise, and straightforward in order to keep customers on the site once they get there. First-time visitors to any artist website should know as quickly as possible where they are, who the artist is, what their art looks like, what it's about, why it's worth spending time on this site, and how to move around the site in order to get wherever they want to go. Sites that lack these basics won't be able to hold visitors long enough to look around at your artwork and class offerings.
Some artist think that websites are outdated, no longer necessary. That having an Instagram page, Facebook page, Etsy page or some other social media presence is all you need, the truth is you have no control over your content on social media sites. They can change their rules at any time, remove posts they deem inappropriate, change their search algorithms, spam your customers with advertising, become outdated, limit you with rules, completely change direction, temporarily suspend your account, or at worst, kick you off altogether.
Regardless of how fabulous you think social media is or how large your following is on any site, YOUR WEBSITE IS THE ONLY PLACE ONLINE WHERE YOU HAVE REAL CONTROL. You and only you decide what to post, when to post it, how long it stays there, how to organize it, when to change it, or where to put it. Social media is great and it has it’s place but always remember, having your own website is a sure presence that you'll never lose. This is list of what to do and what not to do to assure yourself maximum visibility, attention, and an effective web presence online…
Get your own domain name and avoid free web hosting services. Free web hosting is never free and it's always feeble. "Free" websites torture visitors with distracting advertisements and other flashing text or graphics. Sometimes, half of the screen is your site and the other half looks like a circus because it’s controlled by the host site. No art or class will look appealing like that. Free sites do not give a professional appearance, they do the opposite! They give the impression that you can't afford your own website. Please know that a basic website with your own domain name is actually inexpensive.
After your build your website, check it’s appearance and functionality on Internet Explorer, Google Chrome, Firefox and Safari – desktop and mobile. You can build a website that looks great on your one browser but on another browser it’s all a jumble or completely nonfunctional! Yes, this has happened to me… Test your site on all major browsers, desktop and mobile before going public.
Monthly update your website and blog. Schedule a time on your calendar once a month to create a blog post and update your site. Keeping your social media pages current can be done at the same time. Use scheduling for your posting, so they come out on the right days at the right time throughout the month. People will continue to visit your website, and a site that's got old classes or artwork that’s sold and not current gives the impression either nothing much is happening with you, that you’ve abandoned your art career completely or that they're not that serious about being a professional artist. People who visit your site should to find out what's happening now.
Link your website to all of your social media pages (and vice versa) so that visitors can move freely between them. That begins with the name – make them all the same. I’m JodiBaldacci on FB, Instagram, Gmail, - everywhere I have an account. When you post on social media, link to specific images or pages on your website. Using social media is a great way to drive traffic to your website. Driving traffic to your website gives you control the show exactly what and how you want. Use social media to get the word out about your art and present yourself on a personal level, engage with your audience, and offer a glimpse, a teaser if you will into the artist behind the art. The more people can connect with you as a person, the more they'll connect with your art. Give them a sense of who you are, what you stand for, what matters to you, and what your Art Life is all about – that’ll hook them like a fish and they’ll click over to your website to find out more.
Keep your website easy to navigate. Make sure every page on your website is linked back to major pages like your homepage, gallery or portfolio, bio, resume, and contact and purchasing information. Avoid dead-ends.
Keep your main menu options to a minimum. You don’t want that new customer to get overwhelmed with choices before they even start clicking. The most important main menu categories are:
1. Your Gallery or Portfolio link (with drop-down options to individual series or bodies of work as necessary).
2. Your Artist Statement or "About the Art" link.
3. Your Bio or "About the Artist" link.
4. A link to your Resume or CV.
5. Purchase or Buy link containing complete ordering, shipping and payment information for potential buyers.
6. Your Contact Information.
Text explanations of your art are important, but keep the wording minimal. That includes your statement, bio, descriptions of bodies of work or mediums or techniques, etc. Being brief with words gets people into your artwork and classes to see what they came for as quickly as possible because that’s why they're came here – right? You’ll lose overwhelm customers every time. Be quick, concise with your introductions and descriptions. 150-300 words can get monotonous. If you can’t say it in a couple of sentences or paragraphs, ask a friend to help edit it down. If you want to provide detailed information, link to a different page that’s specific to that detailed information, so the truly interested person can read more, but the person who just wants an overview can move on.
Organize your art into groupings. Again, keep is concise. If they want more of that group, they can click and get more. Something for everyone often backfires into nothing for anyone. Think about medium or color or series, etc. When you do this grouping concept, you can accompany each with its own introduction and explanation. Keep that short too… Briefly welcome them to that grouping advising them of the purpose of this grouping will deepen their understanding and experience of what they're about to see. Also keep in mind that search engines cannot search images unless you add a description with words to each picture. SEO reads words they do not see pictures. Providing textual explanations of your groups, series, and individual pieces, increases the chances that images will come up in online searches, and be seen. So make sure every image is searchable!
Use informative page-specific title lines. The title line consists of keywords that accurately describe a page's content, kind of like a news story headline tells what you're about to read. The title line, usually appears at or near the top of your browser window just outside the page, usually on index tabs or tab bars, not in the content of the page itself. It's one of the most important lines on a website page and often the line that appears in the results of someone’s search. Each title line on each individual page of your website and on each individual image if your site is designed to be unique, and a specific description of the contents on that page. Each page should have a different appearance to the search engines, which provides more opportunities at keyword matches, and that translates to more opportunities for your website to appear in search results, which will render more visitors to your website. It’s all in the words you choose to use.
Keep image sizes reasonable and don't put too many images on a single page. Have you ever opened a page where one picture loaded, and the rest were small little boxes? If you waited 15 minutes, they all might load but who’s going to do that? Your site has a max of 5 seconds to grab or loose the customer. Large detailed images of your art may look great as they download with high-speed connections, but remember that many people still have slower connections. Use images no larger than 100K-250K, preferably smaller. Photoshop and other image editing programs like IrfanView have formatting options to reduce image sizes without significantly compromising their quality. Pick one and learn how to use it.
Avoid plug-ins, special effects, audio, complex visuals, and similar gimmicks unless there is a super good reason. They take longer to load; some require special software and they can lock up the customer’s computer or phone. As an artist, the fancy stuff counterproductive to your customer’s purpose. The customer came to your site to see your art and get information on your class offerings quickly
Provide suitable contact information. The more you tell people about yourself such as your cell phone number, email address or other details like your studio address, the more accessible you appear. If you’re perceived hard to communicate with, they’re not likely to engage. By showing them who you are, what part of the country you live in, etc. you appear more relatable. You can use contact forms that can be filled out and submitted. If you use these, state that the email will come to you personally and that you will return their email. This way it’s more personal because they know where this form with their info goes and who gets it – less corporate feeling. Make sure you reply in a timely manner, even if it’s to say that you got their communication and are looking into things, that you’re out of town, etc…
I use a Google phone number so I’m not actually giving out my real cell phone number. You can use it just like your cell phone – text, talk, etc.. I use the gallery address so no one has my home address. I appear accessible, while feeling safe. Customers who buy art or sign up for classes appreciate a sense of knowing the artist. Don't be a stranger; anonymity is not a selling point.
Price your art and classes the same on your website as they are offered in the gallery. The Stella’s Art Gallery is representing your art, so if something is seen at the gallery by a customer, then sells from your website to that customer, the gallery has earned the agreed upon commission. If you put something on sale on your site and it’s in the gallery, it should be marked accordingly in the gallery.
Price your artwork when you put it up on your website and not on the social media. Use the FB, Instagram posts to hook the person and drive them to your website to see the price and purchase. If someone asks the price, provide the link to that specific page on your website instead of stating the price. Generally, customers are reluctant to ask pricing and may wonder why you’re not being transparent about it. Customers might be concerned that the art may be more than they can afford. Be upfront with your pricing.
Provide clear concise instructions on how to buy. When you post on social media state your payment methods options. The more professional you appear; the more comfortable people feel about buying from you.
Offer a variety of price ranges. By offering your classes and artwork at a variety of price points gives your fans of all socioeconomic statuses a chance to own an original piece of art or learn how to do art no matter what their budgets or how familiar they are with you. Please give everyone who likes your art enough to want to own it will be able to afford something.
Don't mix art that's already sold with art that's for sale. If you want to display sold works of art on your site consider that potential customer will experience the fear of missing out and that your best artwork is already gong leaving them with what’s left. Ever been to the end of sale and picked through the leftovers? Yea, that… You can still show sold works if you want, but put them under a separate category in your "Gallery" or "Portfolio" link titled "Select Past Works" or something similar. Here you show the best of the best. Art that's won prizes or has been exhibited at established juried shows; art that's in private, corporate or institutional collections; art that's been featured in reviews or pictured on websites or blogs or in hard-copy publications, and so on. Showing past works in this way acts as sort of a pictorial resume and speaks to your experience, success and credibility as an artist.
Don't show every work of art you've ever created. Remember, keep your website fast, simple, easy and organized. Nobody needs to see experimental pieces that didn't quite work, one-offs that you don't intend to follow up on with additional related works, older pieces that have little or no bearing on what you're doing now, and so on. Too much art and too much variety is confusing to potential customers because they can't get a sense of who you are, what your art represents. Customers rarely buy from artists they can't understand or relate to. Keep it simple; keep it current; keep it related.
In closing, one of the best ways for you to get the word out about your art is through your website. Make sure yours is working for you and that anyone anywhere who lands on it, albeit on purpose or by accident, whether they know you or not, can get up to speed about who you are, what you’re offering them, and be able to click on over to your galleries as quickly and effortlessly as possible. A welcoming website pays dividends in all kinds of ways.
Do you need help with your site? Would you like more traffic? Do you wonder whether it can be better than it is now? I do website consults with artists all the time. I'm always available to go over yours, make specific recommendations on ways to improve it, and increase traffic and engagement with visitors. Email firstname.lastname@example.org or text/call 805.507.Jodi / 805.507.5634 if you have any questions or are interested in making an appointment.
1. Daydream. Give yourself plenty of time to do nothing.
2. Be open to your surroundings. Look at the colors, lines, shadows.
3. Always have something to draw with. Sketch something that catches your eye. Then, create an idea notebook of your sketches.
4. Fold a 8.5x11 piece of paper in half, in half again, and once more. Now draw something in each box. Easy? Do it on both sides. Still easy – do it every day for a month. Use these sketches for new project ideas.
5. Keep it simple.
6. Be audacious.
7. It doesn't always have to make sense.
8. Don't wait for a good idea to come to you. Start by realizing an average idea – no one has to see it. Then develop it from there.
9. Leave the house and studio. When you spend too much time surrounded by the same objects, within the same walls it can all become stale. You can be inspired by examining a weed growing in the woods.
10. Hard work isn't always productive. Your brain needs periods of inactivity. I think of it as a field lying fallow; keep harvesting and the crops won't mature.
11. Don't restrict yourself to your own medium. It is just as possible to be inspired by a film-maker, fashion designer, writer or friend than another artist. Cross-pollination makes for an interesting outcome.
12. Don't try to second-guess what people will want to buy. Successful artists have been so because they have shown people something they hadn't imagined. If buyers all knew what they wanted before it had been made, they would have commissioned it.
13. Don't be afraid to scrap all your hard work and planning and do it differently at the last minute. It's easier to hold on to an idea because you're afraid to admit you were wrong than to let it go.
14, Don't expect inspiration to happen when anyone else is watching. It usually happens when you are on your own, and it's gone in a second so have something to sketch or write with.
15. Try not to analyze other voices and interpretations too much.
16. Have you ever had a popular item sell, then try to make a second one? It never comes out the same. If you are creating from someone else’s work, you will never be satisfied because you’ll never be able to duplicate it. Find your own voice and start there.
17. Mistakes can be inspiring – allow yourself to take risks, and do what scares you.
18. Remember that art is everywhere. It's amazing what you can find inspiring on the Red Line bus route in Cleveland.
19. Be kind to your voice. If you want it to inspire you, you have to inspire it with lots of rest.
20. Get some perspective. I thought I had to have art running in my head every second of every day. The truth is that when I stepped back from it and learn to enjoy the more mundane aspects of life, I appreciate my art so much more.
21. My peers, my family, and people in general are really impressive, they inspire me to come up with something equally impressive.
22. Spending time in your own head is important. I'm often scribbling down fragments that later act like trigger-points for my art.
23. A blank canvas can be very intimidating. Tear that old t-shirt into 4x4” squares. Dip the corner of one into a neutral gray paint. Use it to draw out an idea, like you would a pencil. Once you get the composition laid out, start filling in with some of the colors and before you know it you’ll have a painting!
24. Just start scribbling. The first draft is never your last draft. Nothing you create is by accident.
25. Often, the best artwork is a combination of two disparate ideas fitted together.
26. Don't be scared of failure. It’s a starting point not an end point.
27. If it's all getting too intense, remember it's only a painting. Check into real life with real people who have real problems. Then go back to your painting and you will have some perspective.
28. Listen to music I always have music on while I'm creating. I'm a very aural person. My taste varies wildly depending on what I need. If I’m hyperactive, I need something slow and soothing to settle me. If I’m feeling flat and uninspired, I listen to upbeat inspirational music. I typically start singing the lyrics when I start painting. As I get more immersed into the painting, I’m so focused I’m not really hearing the music any more.
29. Fidget. My mind seems to work best when my hands are occupied with something. Try play-do, a pencil for words or sketches – something that doesn’t require your brain to think about what it’s doing. This helps to focus my brain to create something new.
30. Go for a walk Wander around with no actual purpose in your path or direction. Maybe listen to music as you go. Again, it's about occupying one part of your brain, so that the other part is clear to be creative.
31. Seek inspiration from all sorts of sources; anything that allows you to think about how culture comes together. Observe people in the street; watch films, read, think about the conversations that you’ve had. Consider the gestures people use, or the colors they're wearing. It's about taking all the little everyday things and observing them with a critical eye; building up a scrapbook which you can draw on.
32. It's very important for inspiration to go elsewhere: to move away from a busy life into softer settings, and to make space for thought. Enjoy talking to people who aren't involved in art. It's useful to get perspective on what you are doing by talking to all sorts of different people.
33. Immerse yourself in the worlds of the people who will use and encounter your art to understand their perspective.
34. Forget the art for a minute. Focus totally on where people will be viewing your art in the spaces and places in people’s lives. Will it still be there next year, in five years, in 20. Will your artwork be passed down to the next generation?
35. The most inspiring thing is to see human ingenuity in action – it is all around us.
36. Ask unconventional questions. What if this library were a garden? If this facade could speak, would it be cooing, swearing, silent, erudite?
37. Gather inquisitive and reflective people around you. The rapid bouncing back and forth of an idea can generate compelling concepts at amazing speed.
38. Once there's an idea, turn it upside down and take it seriously for a moment – even if it seems silly.
Open yourself to new experiences to improve your artwork. Consider the more your honor your creativity, the more you’ll notice what you’re drawn to and curious to try. So, create a place now to keep those ideas for inspiration later. One of the biggest challenges is knowing where to start. This can be especially tricky if, like most of us, you were taught that play is for children and adults have responsibilities and serious things to do instead. If you’d like a little helping hand, here are some ideas for artist challenges to get you started. Feel free to pick and choose the ideas that work for you. Consider sharing these activities with a friend, another artist, or even a group of artists! There happen to be 52 challenges here which coincides with 52 weeks in a year, so open up your calendar and schedule Artist Challenge time once a week and keep the appointment on your calendar! Be on time!
Making and Creating
1. Create a vision board (Pinterest is useful for this!)
2. Organize your wardrobe. Bag anything you no longer wear. Arrange your clothes by category, color, or however else you want. Think wearable art!
3. Turn one area of your home into a creative corner. What could you do there? What can you add to make the space inspiring and inviting? Bring creativity into your own home!
4. Enjoy an adult coloring session. Maybe Zentangle with Lisa Rischman
5. Create a mini herb garden in your kitchen. What do you have space to grow?
6. Try your hand at a new kind of art. Look up a few tutorials on YouTube or book a local class. What calls to you?
7. Visit an art, bead or craft shop and browse, letting your imagination run away with you. Have your sketchbook handy!
8. Make your own self-care routine.
9. Make your own journal or notebook.
10. Collage! Get some old magazines (if you don’t have any, second-hand shops sometimes sell them in bulk) and cut out any images and words that resonate with you.
11. Spend an afternoon making part of your home as beautiful as possible. Choose an area that could use some TLC and go to town.
12. Make a meal with courses from different countries.
13. Set yourself a creative budget of $10. Visit your local art or craft shop and see what you can create within this constraint.
14. Spend a couple of hours taking self-portraits. Play around with light, color, background, expression and image filters.
15. Try your hand at writing poetry. Stuck for where to start? Try creating a few haikus.
16. Buy a couple of plants for your home Make sure they are suitable for your environment and research how to care for them.
17. Make your own Christmas decorations. Instead of buying new decorations this year, make a pledge to DIY. This includes Christmas cards and envelopes!
18. Create an upbeat playlist and hold your own solo dance party. Amazon Prime or Spottify is what I use.
19. Try baking something ambitious. Stretch your cooking skills to their limit!
20. Spend an afternoon window shopping. Stop at stores you usually walk straight past and take the time to browse and notice what they’re offering.
Trips and adventures
21. Visit a local museum.
22. Visit a historical building and imagine what it must have been like to live and work there back in the day. Mentor, OH has the Garfield House.
23. Visit a park and sit for a while, people watching, reading and enjoying nature. Take your sketchbook with you!
24. Walk through a new neighborhood and take in the ambience.
25. Visit a local flea market.
26. If you’re in the city, spend an afternoon in the countryside, or if you’re in the country, go to your nearest town. Change your scene for half a day.
27. Visit a local farmer’s market. Take in the sights, sounds and scents. Watch the gestural activity humans have here as they interact with each other.
28. Research self-guided walks around a local area. Do one.
29. Take your camera for an outing, Look out for interesting views, compositions, lines, angles and subjects.
30. Spend a couple of hours at your local coffee shop. Use snippets of conversation you hear to create doodles..
31. Take a trip down memory lane. Use Google Maps to return to one of your favorite places from childhood.
32. Find a couple of unusual “hidden” local attractions - Visit one.
33. Look up top-rated attractions on TripAdvisor in your local area. Pick one to visit.
34. Copy random pages of a novel, or take yesterday’s newspaper, and create blackout poems.
35. Write a gratitude letter to someone who has had an impact on your life. You don’t have to send it (but you can if you want).
36. Spend an afternoon looking at beautiful homes on Pinterest. What is beautiful about them to you? How can you recreate some of that beauty in your own space?
37. Create a vision of your dream life at your next significant age (I.e. 30, 40, 50, 60, etc.).
38. Visit your nearest shoreline and spend a couple of hours watching the waves, noticing what thoughts dance through your mind.
39. Make a “love list” of activities you’d like to try in the future.
40. Watch a foreign movie. Pick a country whose films you’ve never seen before.
41. Go to your local library and pick out 3 books on a topic that sounds interesting.
42. Go shopping and try on 3 items of clothing that you would never, ever wear. What do you notice? How do you feel wearing them?
43. Go to a second-hand book store. Choose a book that catches your eye and spend a couple of hours reading it.
44. Look up lists of classic books and movies. Choose one you haven’t seen before and start watching or reading it.
45. Revisit a toy or tool you loved to play with when you were a kid (e.g. play dough, silly putty, Legos). Get some and spend and play!
46. Go for a walk in a nature spot (think beach, countryside) and pick up two or three nature souvenirs for your home space. Remember not to take anything that’s protected or could have an effect on the local ecosystem.
47. Create your own learning curriculum What resources will you use? Coursera, iTunesU, Open2Study
48. Take a trip down the Wikipedia rabbit hole. Look up something that interests you and see where your curiosity leads!
49. Focus on learning (or relearning) a new physical movement, such as a headstand, handstand, cartwheel. :O
50. Try a new language. Sign Language, French, Spanish, Latin… Duolingo and Memrise are helpful tools on how to start.
51. Start a new jigsaw puzzle. Notice how it feels to watch the pieces come together.
52. Write down 10 new things you’d like to experience before your next birthday. Plan to do the first thing asap.
We do not need to spend a lot of money to do self-care ‘properly’. At its root, self-care isn’t so much about what you do, as what needs you’re meeting in the process. An important part of developing a sustainable self-care routine is identifying ways in which we can meet one or more of our needs without compromising other needs in the process. The self-care routine is designed to help you do just that.
Self-care is not about taking yourself out for manicures, Colombian waxes or whatever the latest fashion trend is. It’s about meeting your needs. If you’re on a budget, purchasing expensive pampering sessions will stress your budget causing other issues. If time is tight, taking several hours out of your day that you don’t have isn’t not going to meet your needs either – in fact, it will probably stress you out even more.
Having said that, there’s a reason why plenty of people opt for professional treatments and attention. Showing your body some TLC feels good. It is certainly one form of self-care, it’s just that we need to find a way to treat our bodies well without compromising any other needs.
Self-care isn’t so much about what we ‘do’. It’s about the experience we have, the feelings that experience invokes, and the needs that experience meets.
So if you can’t go to a fancy spa consider creating a self-care routine that will work for you.
How it WorksThe self-care routine begins with a collection of items that invoke your desired feelings.
This is a very personal experience, so I’m not going to provide a prescriptive list for what should go in your routine.
Instead, the first step is to work out what your desired feelings are: what is it you would like to feel or experience after your self-care?
This might include feeling:
What other words that are meaningful to you?
The next step is to translate these feelings into actions. What can you do that will help you get to these feelings and experiences?
Here are a few suggestions to get you started:
Long, hot bath
Quotes or affirmations
A good book
A scented candle
Your own personal self-care routine might include all of the above, or it might contain none. Like I said, this is a personal experience, so spend time thinking about how you can re-create your desired feelings with simple every-day items and activities.
Once you have a few ideas about the kinds of things you might want in your self-care routine, start gathering things. Begin simply, and test each individual item out for its effectiveness before adding the next. Sometimes, we think a certain item or activity is going to provoke certain feelings, but it doesn’t. We might expect it to be relaxing and enjoyable, whereas in reality we find it uncomfortable and distracting. Equally, we might experience one activity or item in our routine very differently to how we imagined.
There’s no rush: start small and build your routine over a period of several weeks or months. Schedule time to use your self-care routine, and commit to that scheduled time. Whether it’s 15 minutes when you first get up, or you set aside a whole evening, dedicate the time needed. Listen to how your self-care routine leaves your body feeling, and listen to what your gut tells you to add or remove in order to enhance it and make it more effective at meeting your needs.
Why it WorksThe self-care routine is tailored specifically to you and executed on your terms. You’re in complete control over how much time and money you spend on your experience, as well as when you choose to use your routine.
This allows you to experience your desired feelings, set aside time to reconnect with yourself and give your body some TLC, without denying or ignoring other needs you might have, for example a need for financial stability.
Other IdeasIf you’re concerned that engaging with this suggestion might provoke your money gremlins and inner critic, keep them at bay by setting some boundaries. This might take the form of a monthly ‘self-care’ budget, a limit on the number of items you have in your routine, or all of it. Be as generous as you can be with your budget – remember there’s nothing wrong with spending money on yourself – while still keeping your other needs in mind.
What would be in your self-care kit? Leave a comment and let me know.
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